Love used to be a slow burn, a patient dance of discovery and devotion to budding feelings and commitment. Long love letters were written, perfumed and posted, sneaky short messages were passed through friends or the local, friendly shopkeeper who knew how to keep a secret, phone calls were made at public telephone booths and hangouts were prescheduled.
Today, it’s a race against attention and time spans, smartphone swipes, and instant gratification. In a world where everything is one click away—food, entertainment, even validation on social media from strangers—who has the time to nurture something as delicate as love?
We ghost at the first inconvenience, expect soulmate-level connection by the third date and treat relationships like subscriptions—cancel anytime, no strings attached. But real love? It demands patience, effort and a willingness to endure the messy, unfiltered parts. The question is, in this era of speed, do we still have the heart for it?
If you have a weak patience game- and a weak constitution, then love will not be your cup of tea. See, love takes time to grow. You can’t microwave it from the first date at Kempinski to an All Saints Cathedral wedding by the 10th date. Through communication, built trust and shared experience, then can love grow but if you will expect deep connection too soon, too fast, you will only get frustrated and extremely dissapointed.
Additionally, patience is necessary in the face of arising challenges. There is no room for being short tempered in matters love. Misunderstandings and disagreements are some of the unwanted seasonings in romantic relationships but impatience will have you giving up quickly on the relationships sooner than it can simmer into a bonded love.
Last but not least, no one is perfect. Falling in love with someone means falling in love with their great traits and annoying flaws. Impatience, at this point, will only leave you dissatisfied because you had high perfect expectations on a partner instead of embracing the age old golden rule of growing together.
