Kenyans have seen it all- one moment, a celebrity or politician is trending for their work, and the next, their private photos or videos have leaked, setting social media on fire. And Kenya’s social media fires are hard to extinguish!
From leaked WhatsApp screenshots to full-blown scandals with cinematic evidence on X and Telegram, the internet never forgets. These evidences will always be used as charcoal to lynch an individual whenever they try raising their head in public discourse again. But as shocking as these incidents are, they beg the question: Why must nudes and explicit videos be the go-to method for making relationships “spicy”? When did romance become so dependent on digital proof?
There’s no denying the thrill of intimacy, but turning to risky exchanges comes with heavy consequences. We’ve witnessed how relationships turn sour and suddenly, those private moments become weapons of blackmail, revenge or public humiliation. Instead of exposing oneself- literally- why not explore safer, more meaningful ways to keep the fire burning?
Couples can build anticipation through flirty voice notes, surprise handwritten letters or spontaneous date nights. Even playful role-playing, love coupons or teasing messages without the risk of screenshots can create excitement without potential embarrassment.
For long-distance lovers, technology offers endless alternatives-think of private spicy phone calls under the stars, sending mysterious hints about future surprises or planning a reunion with small, thoughtful gifts. Instead of nudes, why not send a book with highlighted romantic passages, a playlist of songs that remind you of each other or even a steamy, well-written letter that leaves more to the imagination? Passion is about connection, not just visual proof.
At the end of the day, the biggest lesson from past Kenyan scandals is that what is shared in the heat of the moment may not always remain private. Before hitting “send,” ask yourself: Is there a safer, smarter way to express love and desire? Because if history has taught us anything, it’s that nudes might bring a moment of thrill, but they can also bring a lifetime of regret.
Also, if you are the shoot first, ask questions later…if you must send the nudes (or dunes as Kenyans like calling them), crop out your face and other identifiable features such as vivid tattoos.
