- A Kenyan woman living in the United States has celebrated the end of her ten-year marriage with a strong message
- The woman, Esther Musila, cautioned against the dangers of depending solely on a spouse for support, urging women to seek employment opportunities
- She boldly labeled her marriage as a scam, and called on women to pursue empowerment and self-reliance
A Kenyan woman residing in the United States has marked the conclusion of her decade-long marriage with a powerful message urging women not to confine themselves to the role of a housewife.
In a candid revelation shared on social media, the woman, Esther Musila, emphasized the importance of financial independence and personal fulfillment, cautioning against the pitfalls of solely relying on a spouse for sustenance.
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Reflecting on her experience, Musila expressed regret over spending ten years as a housewife, labeling her marriage as a “scam.”
She implored women to reject societal pressures to stay at home and instead pursue employment opportunities.
In her words, “That man living with you paying all bills is not real…the day you will WAKE UP FROM YOUR SLEEP MIGHT BE TOO LATE! Never settle for being a Housewife Please I beg! You will Cry abi💊”
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Following the viral spread of her post, numerous individuals reached out to Esther Musilas via direct messages, sharing their own tales of hardship and seeking solace in her newfound liberation.
One woman disclosed her fifteen-year marriage struggle, recounting how her husband discouraged her from seeking employment, leaving her financially dependent and trapped in an unhappy union.
“Hi dea That message about 10years talked to me Ave been in marriage for 15years now,my hubby never wanted me to work so have been a housewife with 4kids,, right now am going thru hell,, cheating na madharau Haina mwisho Am now tired and want to move out but finances zinakufunga hapo, don’t know where to start Saa hii anakuja na panga threatening to do bad,,ATI naskia tu kufanya vibaya”
Another individual, having escaped a violent marriage, appealed for job opportunities to rebuild her life Independently.
“Hi Muthoni my namesake, I found a way out of a violent marriage, please I need a job. I have a daughter, am drowning in debt and Luckily I have no self piti Y…..I have healed and accepted it all. I just need a job. I got married while working but he handicapped that. Kindly ask around but hide my ID totally.”
However, not all reactions to Tata Essy’s proclamation were supportive.
Some social media users challenged her viewpoint, advocating for the merits of choosing to be a housewife.
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One commenter, Mkarye Neema, proudly defended her decision to prioritize raising her children at home, asserting that nurturing and instilling values in her offspring were paramount.
She refuted the notion that being a housewife equated to imprisonment, highlighting it as a fulfilling and noble endeavor.
“Am a proud housewife in America I chose it myself because my children growing up in a nation that will teach them anything but good values is my responsibility. I have the opportunity to nurture and teach them without leaving them in the hands of someone. Freedom is perspective. God has provided all of our needs according to His riches and glory. Would I call this prison or a waste of time? No because I know am doing the most valuable job on earth. Am glad you found your freedom Tata Essy as I don’t know your story. But if there is any one who is a housewife and is feeling bad because everyone says it’s prison am here to encourage you to do what’s best for you and your household. Much love”
Meanwhile, Facebook user Daniel Were attributed the disillusionment with marriage to feminism, suggesting that societal shifts in gender dynamics were to blame for marital dissatisfaction.
Marriage is not a scam. Feminism is.
Esther Ngumo echoed a similar sentiment, criticizing Tata Essy’s perspective as misguided and emphasizing the significance of embracing traditional roles within marriage.
The attitude is just wrong…the freedom we talk about is just something else
In response to the varied reactions, Esther remained resolute in her stance, advocating for women’s empowerment and autonomy within marital relationships.
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She reiterated her belief that marriage thrives on mutual respect and freedom, urging individuals to prioritize personal fulfillment and well-being above societal expectations.
